In honor of Memorial Day, I thought I would remember. I am very thankful for those who fought for our freedom, and those who gave their lives so I can live mine. My dad fought alongside many men who didn't make it home in Vietnam, my gpa (grandpa for those not in my family) fought in WWII... both luckily made it home alive. I consider myself very lucky to not have to have felt the loss of someone close to me in war... and I hope I can live my entire life without ever having to experience that loss...
Tonight I was watching "Band of Brothers" and one episode hit me particularly hard... the soldiers came across a concentration camp which brought back memories of my visit to Dachau, a concentration camp in Germany. I visited the camp while on a trip with the Girl Scouts... and those few hours changed my life. I still to this day find it amazing just how much hate had to have been in those running the camps, and how horrible it must have been to be in the camp... not knowing day to day if you are going to live... I'm sure many days those imprisoned wondered whether it would be better to be alive or dead. I can even begin to comprehend the strength it took to wait until a rescue.
It is times like this when I feel selfish for feeling sorry for myself, feeling annoyed that my life isn't going as planned, and angry that I feel helpless. Because of the brave men and women in uniform I'm afforded the luxury to feel this way, with a roof over my head, food in my fridge, and the bliss of being able to leave my home and not fear being killed just for being me.... for that I am thankful.... and hope all my readers can take time and remember those who believed our freedom was worth putting their life on the line for... how amazing is that?
Monday, May 31, 2010
Saturday, May 29, 2010
Go Ahead & Make Plans
I thought I would be in Seattle by now... really I did. I completely underestimated how long it would take to sell the house and/or find a job. I think I'm a catch, and so is my house... so why am I still here?!! I am not angry about it... I'm getting a bit bored, but I'm not angry. It's weird because lately people have wanted to make plans and their question is always "do you have plans for....???" and our answer is always no. See, we weren't planning to be here, so we didn't make any plans past April 30. That's when the first time home buyer credit expired, and when we thought we would be busy packing. But I guess that just wasn't in the stars!
So here we are... finally making plans. Today I planted a vegetable garden in the back yard... that is after pulling out an entire trash can full of weeds... on the menu: corn, carrots, sweet potatoes, cherry tomatoes, and basil. I'm excited... it's the first thing I've really been excited about for awhile. I have gotten used to not making long term plans... which is quite a shift for me. I've always been one of those people who make plans 2-3 months out... sometimes more if it's a vacation.... now I am living week to week. Shaun and I decided last week that we might as well just make plans to be in Ohio all summer... since that's the way it looks like it's going to be. And I'm actually ok with it (not great, but ok).
I do however want to make plans way in advance. I wish I could start shopping for Christmas (yes, I'm one of those people)... and could make plans for Labor Day... see in Ohio I would be going to my family reunion... in Seattle I would be going to Bumbershoot... either way I will have fun... but.... I JUST WANT TO KNOW!!! I think the worst is not being able to go to things I know I will regret for my entire life. My best friend from college is getting married in 2 months... in Alaska. I had planned to go more than a year ago when I got the save the date... but then lost my job. I still thought, hey it would be a closer flight from Seattle, maybe I can still go... but as the date gets closer and closer it's really starting to sink in that I will not get to see her wedding... and that will haunt me forever. I know she will say it's ok, that's just the type of person she is... but for me... it's something that you just go to... without thought. So, anyone want to buy me a plane ticket to Alaska?!?!
So here we are... finally making plans. Today I planted a vegetable garden in the back yard... that is after pulling out an entire trash can full of weeds... on the menu: corn, carrots, sweet potatoes, cherry tomatoes, and basil. I'm excited... it's the first thing I've really been excited about for awhile. I have gotten used to not making long term plans... which is quite a shift for me. I've always been one of those people who make plans 2-3 months out... sometimes more if it's a vacation.... now I am living week to week. Shaun and I decided last week that we might as well just make plans to be in Ohio all summer... since that's the way it looks like it's going to be. And I'm actually ok with it (not great, but ok).
I do however want to make plans way in advance. I wish I could start shopping for Christmas (yes, I'm one of those people)... and could make plans for Labor Day... see in Ohio I would be going to my family reunion... in Seattle I would be going to Bumbershoot... either way I will have fun... but.... I JUST WANT TO KNOW!!! I think the worst is not being able to go to things I know I will regret for my entire life. My best friend from college is getting married in 2 months... in Alaska. I had planned to go more than a year ago when I got the save the date... but then lost my job. I still thought, hey it would be a closer flight from Seattle, maybe I can still go... but as the date gets closer and closer it's really starting to sink in that I will not get to see her wedding... and that will haunt me forever. I know she will say it's ok, that's just the type of person she is... but for me... it's something that you just go to... without thought. So, anyone want to buy me a plane ticket to Alaska?!?!
Thursday, May 27, 2010
Brrr! It's a Cold Call Letter!
As much as I love to talk, one thing I hate doing... calling people... especially when they aren't expecting my call. Sure, I can talk to my friends, family, and Shaun for a while... but even then about 30 minutes is my limit and I can only handle one call like that a day. One of the things Nancy told me to do was to call people in the field I want to be in and ask them for advice... I'll be honest... there was NO WAY I was going to do that. I mean seriously imagine if someone called you and said "hey, I am unemployed and I want to do your job, have any advice?" I would hang up the phone. And maybe that makes me a mean person... but I know I'm not the only one. So where does that leave you?
For me, I love to write (obviously), so I am great at emails, great at mail mail.... so that's what I went to. I told you earlier how I sent out letters and heard back from one. So what was the letter all about? I wrote to organizations and associations based in Seattle (luckily it's the biggest city in Washington so there are a lot), I wrote to the CEO or President telling them that I was looking for a position in Communications, a bit about my history, and how I would welcome the chance to talk to them about any openings. The thought is that either they will fall in love with you, or maybe they pass it on to another opening, or they hold on to it.
It's a weird concept to me... to send unsolicited mail... I mean I know what I do with mail I don't want.... right into the trash. And I suspect a few of my letters have gone there... but heck, so far I've heard back from 2 of them. The one wrote back and said how I was impressive, but they didn't have an opening; the other wrote me about a different position (which I still haven't heard back about). So I guess it works... so much so that I decided to send another 10 out tomorrow to another group of organizations. I did find this awesome website that lists all the organizations by type of organization... for your state just search "secretary of state" and their library link should be able to help. Here's hoping my written word will get me a job writing!!!!
For me, I love to write (obviously), so I am great at emails, great at mail mail.... so that's what I went to. I told you earlier how I sent out letters and heard back from one. So what was the letter all about? I wrote to organizations and associations based in Seattle (luckily it's the biggest city in Washington so there are a lot), I wrote to the CEO or President telling them that I was looking for a position in Communications, a bit about my history, and how I would welcome the chance to talk to them about any openings. The thought is that either they will fall in love with you, or maybe they pass it on to another opening, or they hold on to it.
It's a weird concept to me... to send unsolicited mail... I mean I know what I do with mail I don't want.... right into the trash. And I suspect a few of my letters have gone there... but heck, so far I've heard back from 2 of them. The one wrote back and said how I was impressive, but they didn't have an opening; the other wrote me about a different position (which I still haven't heard back about). So I guess it works... so much so that I decided to send another 10 out tomorrow to another group of organizations. I did find this awesome website that lists all the organizations by type of organization... for your state just search "secretary of state" and their library link should be able to help. Here's hoping my written word will get me a job writing!!!!
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
Painful Curb Appeal
I haven't talked much about it... but my house is for sale. It's a cute little house, especially on the inside, since I like painting and decorating and all that stuff. I bought the house 5 years ago this week... and when I bought a house I was so excited to get to plant things, have a garden, and a great patio. I have used the patio a lot, it's great... it's the only thing I still think is great.
The past few days I have spent the mornings outside digging up a flowerbed that goes the length of the driveway... the problem is, it was never really taken care of, even before I bought it... so there are weeds up to my waist. Usually in the fall I just run the lawnmower over it and pretend it doesn't exist. But I'm starting to realize that the outside it going to have to change if I don't want the house to be on the market for an entire year. So there I am... digging up weeds and buckets of irises that have been dormant for about 2 years (thanks to a lack of sun with all the weeds). My shoulders hurt, I've sweat more in the past few days than the years of living here. It's hard to think that the only way I'm going to sell my house is to put money and time into something I've never really cared that much about.... especially when I'm this sore!
I guess part of me hoped someone would see the potential and want to do it themselves... but that's clearly not going to happen. I just hope whoever buys this house won't do what happened to my parents... they left beautiful roses behind... just to come back a year later and see them all dug up... I guess it doesn't really matter since in the 700 square foot apartment we would be moving into doesn't have a yard (most likely) the only plants that will be making the move is the beautiful orchid my boyfriend got me for my birthday (that is unless my black thumbs kill it!)... so here's hoping for a good workout and even better results!
The past few days I have spent the mornings outside digging up a flowerbed that goes the length of the driveway... the problem is, it was never really taken care of, even before I bought it... so there are weeds up to my waist. Usually in the fall I just run the lawnmower over it and pretend it doesn't exist. But I'm starting to realize that the outside it going to have to change if I don't want the house to be on the market for an entire year. So there I am... digging up weeds and buckets of irises that have been dormant for about 2 years (thanks to a lack of sun with all the weeds). My shoulders hurt, I've sweat more in the past few days than the years of living here. It's hard to think that the only way I'm going to sell my house is to put money and time into something I've never really cared that much about.... especially when I'm this sore!
I guess part of me hoped someone would see the potential and want to do it themselves... but that's clearly not going to happen. I just hope whoever buys this house won't do what happened to my parents... they left beautiful roses behind... just to come back a year later and see them all dug up... I guess it doesn't really matter since in the 700 square foot apartment we would be moving into doesn't have a yard (most likely) the only plants that will be making the move is the beautiful orchid my boyfriend got me for my birthday (that is unless my black thumbs kill it!)... so here's hoping for a good workout and even better results!
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Happy Birthday!
Today is my birthday... it was wonderful.. in fact the entire week has been great. Which is surprising considering I thought I would be in Seattle, working an amazing new job and having an amazing birthday overlooking the Space Needle and all. I thought with that hope, that goal once set by Shaun and I to celebrate our bdays in Seattle it would be disappointing to still be in Ohio.... but it's not. Sure, I would love to be there blowing out a candle on a cream of wheat piroshky from Piroshky! Piroshky! but my mom's homemade birthday cake was an amazing treat! Really it was great spending time with my family, having a BBQ the other day, then dinner tonight with my parents and Shaun... it was a great way to turn 28 and forget about everything else. But, tomorrow I'm officially less than 2 years away from turning 30... and very far away from my goals... so it's time to get cracking!
Monday, May 24, 2010
How Much Am I Worth?
It's a funny question to ask yourself, how much you are worth... but with the new job search I am forced to ask myself in terms of salary requirements. Today I was asked for salary requirements for a job that I didn't know much about, and it was for a non-profit. In their email they asked for salary requirements then said "keep in mind we are a small not for-profit organization"... which is great because that's what I wanted to work for... but at the same time that brought on the deliema.
Here's the problem... if I ask for too much they will dismiss me and be insulted... which is bad. If I don't ask for enough I 1. under value myself and 2. could miss out on a larger salary.... so how do you find out what to ask for??? Here is what I did. First I asked my career counselor and got her opinion. I also emailed someone who I know does the same job for another company in another city... she told me her starting salary, which I took into consideration with the cost of living in her city and Seattle. I also went to Salary.com's salary wizard and used their free service to give me a window to go with. I took all that into consideration and threw my hat in the ring.... so we'll see.
I do want to end on something extra positive. I don't have the job yet, but the job that asked for the salary requirements came from out of the blue. A few months ago I sent out cold call letters, essentially a resume with a cover letter saying "hey I know you don't have a job opening, I wanted to let you know that I'm available... and awesome!" Anyhow, they emailed me then out of the blue! They held on to my resume and when an opening came available that I was a good candidate for they emailed me! It was a great surprise... and could lead to an amazing birthday!!!!
Here's the problem... if I ask for too much they will dismiss me and be insulted... which is bad. If I don't ask for enough I 1. under value myself and 2. could miss out on a larger salary.... so how do you find out what to ask for??? Here is what I did. First I asked my career counselor and got her opinion. I also emailed someone who I know does the same job for another company in another city... she told me her starting salary, which I took into consideration with the cost of living in her city and Seattle. I also went to Salary.com's salary wizard and used their free service to give me a window to go with. I took all that into consideration and threw my hat in the ring.... so we'll see.
I do want to end on something extra positive. I don't have the job yet, but the job that asked for the salary requirements came from out of the blue. A few months ago I sent out cold call letters, essentially a resume with a cover letter saying "hey I know you don't have a job opening, I wanted to let you know that I'm available... and awesome!" Anyhow, they emailed me then out of the blue! They held on to my resume and when an opening came available that I was a good candidate for they emailed me! It was a great surprise... and could lead to an amazing birthday!!!!
Sunday, May 23, 2010
It's All About Me!
Ok, not really... but sometimes it is. Today for example my family held a wonderful barbecue for my birthday. It was amazing and made me really feel blessed to have such an amazing family who loves me for me. It made me think that sometimes you do need to put yourself first.
At work you always put your bosses needs first (as any good employee does)... but I would also put other people ahead of me that I didn't really need to... it was just a need to be liked I guess. The problem is now, I need to put myself first... I need to tell myself that I am good enough, that I do deserve the best... to honestly think about what *I* want... and demand nothing less... at least when it comes to the job search. So thank you to my family who, at least once a year, makes me put myself first... it's a good reminder that I deserve anything I want.
At work you always put your bosses needs first (as any good employee does)... but I would also put other people ahead of me that I didn't really need to... it was just a need to be liked I guess. The problem is now, I need to put myself first... I need to tell myself that I am good enough, that I do deserve the best... to honestly think about what *I* want... and demand nothing less... at least when it comes to the job search. So thank you to my family who, at least once a year, makes me put myself first... it's a good reminder that I deserve anything I want.
Saturday, May 22, 2010
"We Decided Not To Continue"
Yesterday I got two emails from two different jobs, both telling me "while your experience and qualifications are impressive, we have decided not to move forward with your application at this time." Now some people may be glad that they hear back, knowing that they can stop hoping.... me... I hate it.
Most places get so many applicants that they never bother to write back. I find that idea much more comforting, because there is still a bit of hope. My last job for example, I applied for right out of college in June... never heard back. Then in October I get a call out of the blue asking me to come in for an interview. What happened? They hired someone, but then she decided it wasn't the job for her and left. I know that is an EXTREMELY rare situation... but still it happens.
I guess the thing that bothers me about the rejection letters is they tell you that you are great and whatnot... but they don't tell you WHY they don't want you. I have the same frustration with my house, I get good feedback, but few people say WHY they decided not to buy. I know it may seem harsh, and I know that I do not take criticism well (imagine me in a pile of tears)... but still at least then you have something to work on. Instead leaving it wide open my mind wanders... it thinks of all the reasons they may have passed: did I not have enough experience, maybe it's because I'm not a pro at excel (though how would they know that), maybe it's because I'm a girl... maybe it's because I live 2,000 miles away... who knows.
I have always been that way, the type of person who wants to know why I'm not good enough for people... even if I can't handle the honest truth... I'd rather know because at least then my mind doesn't spend hours wandering. I guess I should go... my mind has a lot more wandering to do today... and I have a lot more jobs to apply for!
Friday, May 21, 2010
Work Ethic
I recently had a phone interview, and one question "so what have you been doing since your last job?" Trying to not say "enjoying spending time on myself, with friends and family, and relaxing" I had some lengthy but amazing answer about how I was focusing on the job search. But the thing is, I have realized that while I am a hard worker once I'm in a job, I lack that work ethic that makes me feel like I need to work or die.
Don't get me wrong, I really do work hard at my jobs, and it's not that I hate going to work or hate working... I just hate doing work that I... well hate. Some people, like my dad, have that need... that drive to work no matter what, even if it's not a job they enjoy... they just need to be working. I on the other hand, have no problem taking it easy. Instead of a work hard, play hard attitude, I like to think of it as a work hard, rest a lot attitude. My vacations usually have at least one day where we just kick back... things are not planned, etc. That's how I like it... I like having generic plans.
So now I guess I need to ask myself, is my more laid back attitude a good thing or a bad thing? Sure, it means that right now I would rather hold out for a dream job versus doing just anything... but where do I draw the line? How long can I really wait for that perfect job? I'm still not sure... but I'm just going to enjoy my birthday next week and hope that one of my resumes is making it's way into the "YES" pile.
Don't get me wrong, I really do work hard at my jobs, and it's not that I hate going to work or hate working... I just hate doing work that I... well hate. Some people, like my dad, have that need... that drive to work no matter what, even if it's not a job they enjoy... they just need to be working. I on the other hand, have no problem taking it easy. Instead of a work hard, play hard attitude, I like to think of it as a work hard, rest a lot attitude. My vacations usually have at least one day where we just kick back... things are not planned, etc. That's how I like it... I like having generic plans.
So now I guess I need to ask myself, is my more laid back attitude a good thing or a bad thing? Sure, it means that right now I would rather hold out for a dream job versus doing just anything... but where do I draw the line? How long can I really wait for that perfect job? I'm still not sure... but I'm just going to enjoy my birthday next week and hope that one of my resumes is making it's way into the "YES" pile.
Thursday, May 20, 2010
It Takes FOREVER!!!!!!!
So today will be a bit more of a rant... as I sit here, month 6 of looking for work... I am starting to realize just how long it takes from sending resume to actually getting a person in the job. I always love when I finally get contacted a month or so after applying and actually have to stop and think which job it was! One job that I applied for was actually the second job at the same place (different titles and departments) and I am able to go online and see the "status of my application" which was recently forwarded to the department... I applied... 3 weeks ago.
I guess it's just a reminder to be patient. My mom, the most patient woman I know, reminds me of this often. I am an impatient person, I admit... but that's what makes me good at what I do... I work on deadlines, and I expect the same for those that I am working for... but we all know that's not going to happen. So here I am... still looking, still hoping... still waiting for that ONE employer to realize that I am... perfect.
I guess it's just a reminder to be patient. My mom, the most patient woman I know, reminds me of this often. I am an impatient person, I admit... but that's what makes me good at what I do... I work on deadlines, and I expect the same for those that I am working for... but we all know that's not going to happen. So here I am... still looking, still hoping... still waiting for that ONE employer to realize that I am... perfect.
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
B-day Discounts: The Best Thing About Getting Older
In less than a week I will be 28. It's a hard thing to state seeing as it makes me that much closer to turning 30... something I dread more than... well anything! When you are little 30 seems so far away and you think that you will have your whole life together... how wrong I was!!! But there is a plus side (I think Shaun is starting to hate that I always try to find "a plus side" to everything!) they are in the form of discounts... birthday discounts.
I mentioned in an earlier post how I love discount cards, I sign up for almost all of them... all with my "junk email account" (a free email account that I only use for discount cards, online shopping and craigslist... one that doesn't have my real name anywhere in the address). But starting May first all those cards really pay off. Restaurants send me emails for free deserts, free appetizers, buy one get one entrees or just a $5 coupon. Oh, and don't forget about places like Baskin Robbins or Rita's... both give great coupons for some delicious treats!
But my absolute favorite... the coupons for shopping!!!! I already love shopping, and keep in mind I only get discount cards for places I already shop... so it's so nice to get myself a little present! Today I cashed in a few. I let Shaun use one to get a discount on a new pair of shoes (I'm trying to cut back), and I got $10 off my face moisturizer... and a few samples! Yes, I'm still spending some money, but when you start doing this year after year you know to expect it and therefore make things last until your bday. My moisturizer for example lasts a year, so I get a new one on my bday, and I usually treat myself to a nice new bra every year too... also $10 off! Below are a list of some of my favorite bday gifts.
Shopping:
Victoria's Secret: $10 on your bday for anyone with their credit card
DSW: $5 with their rewards program... which actually doesn't have a card they just use your phone number
Orgins: $10 off $25 for your bday
The Body Shop: $10 off anything... BUT keep in mind you pay $10 for the card
Food (and yes, I know some of these are local):
T.G.I.Friday's: Free desert with purchase of entree with their rewards program
Max & Erma's: 6 Free Cookies with their rewards program
Baskin-Robbin's: Free small scoop with their Bday Club
Bob Evans: Free desert with their email club
Rita's: Buy One Get One delicious treat with email club
Smokey Bones: $5 off $15 with their Bones Club Card
Buffalo Wild Wings: Free desert with their email club
Great American Cookies: Free slice of cookie cake with email club
Uno Pizza: Free entree with email club
I know that's not all that's out there... so if you have any you love... let me know!!!!
I mentioned in an earlier post how I love discount cards, I sign up for almost all of them... all with my "junk email account" (a free email account that I only use for discount cards, online shopping and craigslist... one that doesn't have my real name anywhere in the address). But starting May first all those cards really pay off. Restaurants send me emails for free deserts, free appetizers, buy one get one entrees or just a $5 coupon. Oh, and don't forget about places like Baskin Robbins or Rita's... both give great coupons for some delicious treats!
But my absolute favorite... the coupons for shopping!!!! I already love shopping, and keep in mind I only get discount cards for places I already shop... so it's so nice to get myself a little present! Today I cashed in a few. I let Shaun use one to get a discount on a new pair of shoes (I'm trying to cut back), and I got $10 off my face moisturizer... and a few samples! Yes, I'm still spending some money, but when you start doing this year after year you know to expect it and therefore make things last until your bday. My moisturizer for example lasts a year, so I get a new one on my bday, and I usually treat myself to a nice new bra every year too... also $10 off! Below are a list of some of my favorite bday gifts.
Shopping:
Victoria's Secret: $10 on your bday for anyone with their credit card
DSW: $5 with their rewards program... which actually doesn't have a card they just use your phone number
Orgins: $10 off $25 for your bday
The Body Shop: $10 off anything... BUT keep in mind you pay $10 for the card
Food (and yes, I know some of these are local):
T.G.I.Friday's: Free desert with purchase of entree with their rewards program
Max & Erma's: 6 Free Cookies with their rewards program
Baskin-Robbin's: Free small scoop with their Bday Club
Bob Evans: Free desert with their email club
Rita's: Buy One Get One delicious treat with email club
Smokey Bones: $5 off $15 with their Bones Club Card
Buffalo Wild Wings: Free desert with their email club
Great American Cookies: Free slice of cookie cake with email club
Uno Pizza: Free entree with email club
I know that's not all that's out there... so if you have any you love... let me know!!!!
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
Networking 101
I have to say, it's hard telling people you are unemployed... really, when you have worked pretty steady since you could drive, it's hard to tell people that for the last 6 months you have been sitting on the couch looking for work on your laptop. But one thing I've learned is telling people can actually help.. A LOT!
The first time Nancy told me to start contacting the people I used to work with (at my work and contacts I stole before I left), and even friends and family I thought she was down right CRAZY!!!!! The plan, email everyone I know, telling them that I am looking for work in the Seattle area and if they know anyone there can they give me their contact information... even if they are not in the field I'm looking for. In a way it's kinda like facebook or friendster, or all those social networking sites where it connects friends and friends of friends and friends of those friends.... the point... get your name out there as much as possible... and yes it was weird to contact people I used to work with and tell them that I need their help... but what I didn't expect, is how much people want to help.
Between phone calls and emails I was able to connect with other employees who had left recently who gave me advice... maybe not contacts... but still I'll take some advice. Then others, even friends, who had a college buddy or they work with someone from Seattle, etc who offered to pass on my resume. It's amazing how much my network has grown, and how people really do want to help, even if it's just to pass on the buck to someone else. And while I haven't gotten a job out of it, I have made some great contacts, people wanting to help, people who live in Seattle who have offered to meet for coffee (what else out there right?) once I move out there. It's been really great.
And a bit of advice, once you make those contacts save them all... and send monthly updates with what you have been doing (job search related), attach your resume, and ask to keep you in mind. It's amazing how someone may not say anything in month one or 2, but then in month 3 they meet someone or think of someone and pass it on.... hopefully to your next contact that will lead to a next job!
Also, don't overlook strangers at parties... not that you want to just talk to anyone... but a random conversation at the hair salon or a wedding could lead to a new career. And you may want to consider having business cards instead of writing your email down on a napkin... you can actually get a box for FREE at Vistaprint (what I went with, it was super fast AND like $3 for shipping) or Bizcard. Plus, it's awesome getting to print out cards that don't have the wrong phone extension or a misspelled email... wait was that just me???
The first time Nancy told me to start contacting the people I used to work with (at my work and contacts I stole before I left), and even friends and family I thought she was down right CRAZY!!!!! The plan, email everyone I know, telling them that I am looking for work in the Seattle area and if they know anyone there can they give me their contact information... even if they are not in the field I'm looking for. In a way it's kinda like facebook or friendster, or all those social networking sites where it connects friends and friends of friends and friends of those friends.... the point... get your name out there as much as possible... and yes it was weird to contact people I used to work with and tell them that I need their help... but what I didn't expect, is how much people want to help.
Between phone calls and emails I was able to connect with other employees who had left recently who gave me advice... maybe not contacts... but still I'll take some advice. Then others, even friends, who had a college buddy or they work with someone from Seattle, etc who offered to pass on my resume. It's amazing how much my network has grown, and how people really do want to help, even if it's just to pass on the buck to someone else. And while I haven't gotten a job out of it, I have made some great contacts, people wanting to help, people who live in Seattle who have offered to meet for coffee (what else out there right?) once I move out there. It's been really great.
And a bit of advice, once you make those contacts save them all... and send monthly updates with what you have been doing (job search related), attach your resume, and ask to keep you in mind. It's amazing how someone may not say anything in month one or 2, but then in month 3 they meet someone or think of someone and pass it on.... hopefully to your next contact that will lead to a next job!
Also, don't overlook strangers at parties... not that you want to just talk to anyone... but a random conversation at the hair salon or a wedding could lead to a new career. And you may want to consider having business cards instead of writing your email down on a napkin... you can actually get a box for FREE at Vistaprint (what I went with, it was super fast AND like $3 for shipping) or Bizcard. Plus, it's awesome getting to print out cards that don't have the wrong phone extension or a misspelled email... wait was that just me???
Monday, May 17, 2010
No, I Have No Managerial Experience...
One thing I have been struggling with is convincing employers that I can do the job of a manager because I don't have any managerial experience. It's hard because not only do I know I can do the job... but I know I can do an amazing job at it. So how do you convince someone that you can be amazing when you don't fit their "desired resume"?? The answer... I have no idea.
That's my biggest problem right now... I'm trying to go in a different direction, leaving TV behind for a job on "the other side." I get the inner workings of a newsroom so you would think I would be a logical choice, but companies want someone who has worked in PR for 10 years or they are hiring unpaid internships... neither of which is really desirable.
I really wish I had more advice to give on this... today I had a phone interview at a TV station, I think it went ok... but I know they want someone with experience as a manager... which I don't have... so we'll see how it goes.
That's my biggest problem right now... I'm trying to go in a different direction, leaving TV behind for a job on "the other side." I get the inner workings of a newsroom so you would think I would be a logical choice, but companies want someone who has worked in PR for 10 years or they are hiring unpaid internships... neither of which is really desirable.
I really wish I had more advice to give on this... today I had a phone interview at a TV station, I think it went ok... but I know they want someone with experience as a manager... which I don't have... so we'll see how it goes.
Sunday, May 16, 2010
Stand By Me
Last night was the first time I saw the movie "Stand By Me"... I know it may seem late, but since I was 5 when it came out, I have to plead too young to see it. It was a cute movie, but it did make me think about the friends I have now and then. I mean are any of you still friends with the same people you were friends with when you were 12.... for me not so much. I am lucky enough to have two friends that I have known my entire life.
My one friend Tracy and I joke that we became friends when she handed me toys in the play pen. My memory doesn't go that far back, but I have no reason not to believe her as I can't remember life without her in it. She lived in the house behind me and was the friend I went trick-or-treating with, played house with, talk to boys about with... she was a year older so she experienced junior high before me, high school before me, was driving before me (which was great since she also drove me to school everyday too!). And while we don't talk every day and live 1 1/2 hours away... when we do talk we can talk for hours and it's as if time has never passed. A friend like that is hard to come by, but I will keep her close for the rest of my life.
Another friend, Jill, and I have also been close for as long as I can remember... our path was a bit rocky... she was younger and at times I was "too mature" for her. But looking back she was the best person to play Barbies with! Now, we are close, we also don't talk much or see each other much... but I can tell her ANYTHING, and vice versa, she has become more like a younger sister than just a friend.
I have made new friends in my life, in high school and college, even in the work force. And while my friends from college and since are the ones I see and talk to more often, there is something about those childhood friends that I know are the friends you stay with forever... the friends that will stand by me no matter what happens (yes, I know it was a cheesy tie in to the title of the movie but hey)... I hope that everyone is lucky enough to have friends like that...
My one friend Tracy and I joke that we became friends when she handed me toys in the play pen. My memory doesn't go that far back, but I have no reason not to believe her as I can't remember life without her in it. She lived in the house behind me and was the friend I went trick-or-treating with, played house with, talk to boys about with... she was a year older so she experienced junior high before me, high school before me, was driving before me (which was great since she also drove me to school everyday too!). And while we don't talk every day and live 1 1/2 hours away... when we do talk we can talk for hours and it's as if time has never passed. A friend like that is hard to come by, but I will keep her close for the rest of my life.
Another friend, Jill, and I have also been close for as long as I can remember... our path was a bit rocky... she was younger and at times I was "too mature" for her. But looking back she was the best person to play Barbies with! Now, we are close, we also don't talk much or see each other much... but I can tell her ANYTHING, and vice versa, she has become more like a younger sister than just a friend.
I have made new friends in my life, in high school and college, even in the work force. And while my friends from college and since are the ones I see and talk to more often, there is something about those childhood friends that I know are the friends you stay with forever... the friends that will stand by me no matter what happens (yes, I know it was a cheesy tie in to the title of the movie but hey)... I hope that everyone is lucky enough to have friends like that...
Friday, May 14, 2010
Should I Apply???
I feel that overall I'm a confident person... that is until I'm looking at job openings. I keep asking myself... should I apply? Do I qualify? Am I good enough? Having to apply to jobs is a bit of a blow to the self esteem. I see some jobs that I could do... if I had 10+ years of experience. I see others that I know I could do... if I don't mind taking a $10,000+ pay cut. And then there are jobs I could do for the right pay... that about 2,000 other people who live in Seattle also apply for.... Needless to say it's a bit tiring.
The first thing I had to tell myself was... I am good enough. Sometimes it's hard to see how your experience in one career will help towards another. My experience is all in local broadcast news... and while yes, I could get another job in news, I could also be on the other side as a PR or Media Relations person. BUT it doesn't stop there... really any job that needs someone who can write is within my abilities. Also, I am lucky to have 5 years experience thanks to my job plus a little overflow thanks to the job I had in college. Once I realized I could apply to so many more jobs the applications went out in full!
The second thing I had to tell myself is that I am worth more. It does mean that I have to pass up some jobs that would mean a big pay cut... but honestly my experience is worth more than someone right out of college or lacking a degree all together. Sometimes it's hard, and it's not that I would overlook ALL jobs that make less, but unless there is some serious passion... why keep living paycheck to paycheck?
The last thing I told myself... WHY NOT!?!?!? I'm not the type of person who likes to put myself out there, fears from way back of being judged and ridiculed (elementary kids are ruthless!). I have had to remind myself lots of times... what is the worst that could happen? So you apply to a job that maybe you just meet the bare minimums or you don't have a lot of experience with one small "preferred" aspect of the job... you have until you start to learn it! Keep in mind this is not to be confused with the "required" aspects of the job... I can't obtain a master's degree or 5 more years experience in 3 months.... but when it comes to preferred... just go for it! In all honesty the worst thing that could happen... they look at your resume... and throw it away. The best thing... you get the job. I think I'll take my chances.
Getting through this time is all about attitude... and when faced with the question: should I apply? The answer should be "YES!" and the more excited you say it to yourself, the more positive you will come off in cover letters!!!!
The first thing I had to tell myself was... I am good enough. Sometimes it's hard to see how your experience in one career will help towards another. My experience is all in local broadcast news... and while yes, I could get another job in news, I could also be on the other side as a PR or Media Relations person. BUT it doesn't stop there... really any job that needs someone who can write is within my abilities. Also, I am lucky to have 5 years experience thanks to my job plus a little overflow thanks to the job I had in college. Once I realized I could apply to so many more jobs the applications went out in full!
The second thing I had to tell myself is that I am worth more. It does mean that I have to pass up some jobs that would mean a big pay cut... but honestly my experience is worth more than someone right out of college or lacking a degree all together. Sometimes it's hard, and it's not that I would overlook ALL jobs that make less, but unless there is some serious passion... why keep living paycheck to paycheck?
The last thing I told myself... WHY NOT!?!?!? I'm not the type of person who likes to put myself out there, fears from way back of being judged and ridiculed (elementary kids are ruthless!). I have had to remind myself lots of times... what is the worst that could happen? So you apply to a job that maybe you just meet the bare minimums or you don't have a lot of experience with one small "preferred" aspect of the job... you have until you start to learn it! Keep in mind this is not to be confused with the "required" aspects of the job... I can't obtain a master's degree or 5 more years experience in 3 months.... but when it comes to preferred... just go for it! In all honesty the worst thing that could happen... they look at your resume... and throw it away. The best thing... you get the job. I think I'll take my chances.
Getting through this time is all about attitude... and when faced with the question: should I apply? The answer should be "YES!" and the more excited you say it to yourself, the more positive you will come off in cover letters!!!!
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Selling Yourself
Selling yourself... it's the most effective way to get a job (or so I'm told).... and I'm not talking about "selling" yourself... just your skills at the job. It sounds easy, especially if you are a confident person... and while I do consider myself to be a confident person, I have trouble convincing an employer I'm the best person for the job. For me, the hardest part is trying to convey my entire personality, experience, smarts, sense of humor, etc all in a cover letter and resume.
First the resume... did you know that when you have enough experience you can allow the resume to go over one page?? I had NO idea until I saw a career counselor who polished up my resume. I felt stupid knowing that I was trying to squish years of work, college, awards, and reference all on one little page. I kept making the font smaller, going into the margins, etc. Then Nancy (my counselor), told me to write down all my achievements (not just awards, but projects I had a hand in too) in all of my jobs and college... I did just that which did give me a confidence boost. Then we took some of those achievements and added them to my career objectives and after each job. That pushed education, awards and references all to the second page. At first I asked if this was ok, don't employers only look at one page? And they might... but my professional experience is why I would get in the door since 1. my jobs all require a degree anyhow 2. I mention that I won awards under the job I that corresponds (then go into the details on page 2) and 3. it's not unusual to have references on a separate page. So now with a sparkling resume I was confident to get it out... but now I need to write a cover letter.
The last time I had to write a cover letter I was fresh out of college, and even then I didn't think it was that great. I know that the more professional experience you have the more you SHOULD know how to write a cover letter and resume... but who is supposed to teach you these things??? For me... Nancy. Between looking at books and online I found some professional cover letters then tweaked them to talk about me. The thing I learned was once you have a base of a great cover letter then you just need to tweak certain words to work with the job you are applying for. And a great way of doing that... use some of the words they are using in the ad... it makes you look like you read all the directions of the ad, and using the same wording they use makes you look like you will fit it.... or so you can hope.
Now keep in mind I don't have a job yet... but I have gotten positive feedback on my cover letter and resume.... I'm getting a little bit better at selling myself, selling an employer the idea that NO ONE will do this job as well as I can. Now I just need them to see it from 2,000 miles away!
First the resume... did you know that when you have enough experience you can allow the resume to go over one page?? I had NO idea until I saw a career counselor who polished up my resume. I felt stupid knowing that I was trying to squish years of work, college, awards, and reference all on one little page. I kept making the font smaller, going into the margins, etc. Then Nancy (my counselor), told me to write down all my achievements (not just awards, but projects I had a hand in too) in all of my jobs and college... I did just that which did give me a confidence boost. Then we took some of those achievements and added them to my career objectives and after each job. That pushed education, awards and references all to the second page. At first I asked if this was ok, don't employers only look at one page? And they might... but my professional experience is why I would get in the door since 1. my jobs all require a degree anyhow 2. I mention that I won awards under the job I that corresponds (then go into the details on page 2) and 3. it's not unusual to have references on a separate page. So now with a sparkling resume I was confident to get it out... but now I need to write a cover letter.
The last time I had to write a cover letter I was fresh out of college, and even then I didn't think it was that great. I know that the more professional experience you have the more you SHOULD know how to write a cover letter and resume... but who is supposed to teach you these things??? For me... Nancy. Between looking at books and online I found some professional cover letters then tweaked them to talk about me. The thing I learned was once you have a base of a great cover letter then you just need to tweak certain words to work with the job you are applying for. And a great way of doing that... use some of the words they are using in the ad... it makes you look like you read all the directions of the ad, and using the same wording they use makes you look like you will fit it.... or so you can hope.
Now keep in mind I don't have a job yet... but I have gotten positive feedback on my cover letter and resume.... I'm getting a little bit better at selling myself, selling an employer the idea that NO ONE will do this job as well as I can. Now I just need them to see it from 2,000 miles away!
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Who You Gonna Call???
Unemployment... I'm sure you've all heard horror stories about waiting in long lines and being on hold forever. I am hear to say... it's not THAT bad. Thanks to technology the lines are gone but there are still some problems you need to overcome.
A days (10 to be exact) my unemployment ran out and I called to apply for the extension. As of yesterday I still wasn't getting my benefits. So the question comes.... how you gonna call??? You get a book of phone numbers and none of them tell you who to call for what. So I started. I decided the first person to call is the one person I met in person. I called him in the morning... then about 6 hours later got a call back. I know I shouldn't be upset because at least I got a call back in the same day... but it was frustrating to finally get the call just for him to tell me... you have to call another number.
So here I am, calling the processing center, praying that I get through before 5 pm (Keep in mind I'm calling at 3:45).... with the phone on speaker I start pacing thinking of all the "what if's"... What if I don't get an extension? What if I can't pay my mortgage this month? What if the worst happens???
Luckily it all worked out for me... I got THE nicest lady ever who told me that my claim was never processed and that she would post date it to cover the last few weeks. (TIP: If you ever have to call, be really nice... the people on the phone will go OUT of their way to be nice back... which is a huge plus).
At the end of the day I guess I'm ok... but it was a bit scary.
A days (10 to be exact) my unemployment ran out and I called to apply for the extension. As of yesterday I still wasn't getting my benefits. So the question comes.... how you gonna call??? You get a book of phone numbers and none of them tell you who to call for what. So I started. I decided the first person to call is the one person I met in person. I called him in the morning... then about 6 hours later got a call back. I know I shouldn't be upset because at least I got a call back in the same day... but it was frustrating to finally get the call just for him to tell me... you have to call another number.
So here I am, calling the processing center, praying that I get through before 5 pm (Keep in mind I'm calling at 3:45).... with the phone on speaker I start pacing thinking of all the "what if's"... What if I don't get an extension? What if I can't pay my mortgage this month? What if the worst happens???
Luckily it all worked out for me... I got THE nicest lady ever who told me that my claim was never processed and that she would post date it to cover the last few weeks. (TIP: If you ever have to call, be really nice... the people on the phone will go OUT of their way to be nice back... which is a huge plus).
At the end of the day I guess I'm ok... but it was a bit scary.
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
Some Lovin' from the Oven
Growing up our home always smelled of... well delicious food. It was always made from the heart... and from my last post I hope you realize that my mom's heart is big and puts out a lot of love. When I moved out on my own I would cook, but nothing as great as my mom made, unless it was something I could eat for 4 days. Now that I am with Shaun and have someone else to help eat the food I am cooking more and more (plus, it's cheaper then going out). BUT, now I have this problem because Shaun doesn't like a lot of the stuff my mom makes because it 1. has onions in it, 2. has mushrooms in it, 3. isn't spicy enough or 4. isn't "well done" (aka burnt) enough. Now that's not saying I don't have some recipes he loves... case in point he could eat my mom's Sunday dinner Bisquick chicken every day of the week, but I think the butter in that recipe would kill us if we ate is every day.
So, for the most part I'm at square one... and that's when I started doing some research. I like to try recipes, but I also like to tweak them. But, if you've ever cooked you know that "tweaking" can lead to disasters! But then... behold.. the most amazing recipe site EVER! Allrecipes.com is amazing! Not only does it have recipes you can use, with pictures... BUT, people comment on there on how THEY tweaked it to make it better! My best experience... Chicken Pot Pie... someone posted a recipe with 4 ingredients... but then the comments were amazing talking about how they made it more flavorful and how they made it so the crust wasn't mush.
I am a huge fan of the Food Network, and I do use their site as well as the Diabetes Association site since I am borderline and Shaun is diabetic... but the comments are great.
Also, if you are looking for something new to try start a recipe email exchange, Yes, it's a chain letter, and yes many people hate them... but I love them. Me, I just keep 2-3 recipes in my word documents and when I get one I just pick one out and email it... it takes 30 seconds, and hopefully you'll get 1-2 in return... if you don't want to do the chain letter type you can always just email your friends and tell them you are stumped and ask them to share their favorite dish. And if anyone wants to share one with me I'll be happy to try it... just make sure there are no onions or mushrooms in it!
So, for the most part I'm at square one... and that's when I started doing some research. I like to try recipes, but I also like to tweak them. But, if you've ever cooked you know that "tweaking" can lead to disasters! But then... behold.. the most amazing recipe site EVER! Allrecipes.com is amazing! Not only does it have recipes you can use, with pictures... BUT, people comment on there on how THEY tweaked it to make it better! My best experience... Chicken Pot Pie... someone posted a recipe with 4 ingredients... but then the comments were amazing talking about how they made it more flavorful and how they made it so the crust wasn't mush.
I am a huge fan of the Food Network, and I do use their site as well as the Diabetes Association site since I am borderline and Shaun is diabetic... but the comments are great.
Also, if you are looking for something new to try start a recipe email exchange, Yes, it's a chain letter, and yes many people hate them... but I love them. Me, I just keep 2-3 recipes in my word documents and when I get one I just pick one out and email it... it takes 30 seconds, and hopefully you'll get 1-2 in return... if you don't want to do the chain letter type you can always just email your friends and tell them you are stumped and ask them to share their favorite dish. And if anyone wants to share one with me I'll be happy to try it... just make sure there are no onions or mushrooms in it!
Sunday, May 9, 2010
Lessons From Mom
Happy Mother's Day!!!! Today is the best day to thank the woman who raised you. My mom did an amazing job if I do say so myself, and today I'm going to share some of her words of wisdom and lessons of life.
1. If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all: Yes, I know a lot of your moms said this, but my mom really meant it. Maybe that's why I can bite my toungue when talking about my last job. There were A LOT of nice things with my job... but... not everything was great and those things... I just shouldn't talk about.
2. Be nice to everyone, because you never know who you are talking to: When I was younger I always thought that my mom was crazy talking to every woman she met in line waiting for the bathroom... the joke was she went into the bathroom and made a new best friend. But as I'm learning more and more about the need for networking I find myself at least being open to returning conversation with strangers... after all I could start talking to someone who could change my life forever.
3. How to be in love: I am a VERY lucky 20-something as my parents are not only still married, but still in love. I have two amazing role models when it comes to knowing what love is supposed to be... some give and take, some compromise, always making sure it's all cleared up before bed, going the extra mile just because... all those little things. I guess I used to take it for granted that they loved each other still, but then a few years ago I was at a friend's wedding that my parents were also at... another bridesmaid sitting next to me leaned over and said "look at your parents (dancing to a slow song, looking at each other just so)... I hope I find someone I love that much and still love them that much after all those years." That's when it hit me that their love was something special... and that's the love I hope I still have when I'm 50+ too!
4. The way to a man's heart is through his stomach: This may not work for every guy... but I know it helps me. My mom taught me how to cook great food, and how putting love in that food translates. I have always liked cooking.... but having someone I love to cook for makes me love cooking. I especially love making things I know he loves (and of course I don't cook anything I don't love too)... and waiting for that moment when he looks and me and says "it's delicious thank you sweetie."... It's not much but now I understand why my mom always worked so hard to cook dinner for us.
5. Treat others how you want to be treated: I may not follow this to a T... ok I've changed it quite a bit. I do treat others how I want to be treated... but this also helped give me the strength to cut people out of my life who don't treat me well. I've transitioned this to... "if you don't want to be around me don't... and if I don't want to be around you.... good bye." It may sound mean, but I used to be so focused on wanting EVERYONE to like me that I would stress myself out and depress myself. Once I realized that I just need SOME people to like me my life changed.
6. How to take care of someone when they are sick: I hate being sick... it's horrible... but my mom, a licensed RN, is an amazing nurse. She would make your favorite "sick" food which for me is lime jello with pears, gingerale, and cinnamon toast. My mom would make me take a nap, make me take it easy... when I was 10 this was annoying... but a few weeks ago I was sick... and what did I do... I took it easy and took naps... who knew she was so smart! Then when Shaun got sick I was able to take care of him... making him things he loves and making sure he took it easy.
7. How to drive: Yes, my mom taught me how to drive... she has WAY more patience then my dad and is better at staying calm when telling me I'm getting too close to the other car. And yes, my mom still helps me drive sometimes when we are in rush hour traffic and she thinks I'm going to crash... but I know it's just because she cares. But it's more than just learning how to drive... by teaching me this she taught me how to leave. I'm sure reading this she is wishing she never taught me now and I would stay in Ohio forever... but the freedom that comes with driving is the same feeling you get when you move out of the house and for me soon out of the state. I think my mom should be proud... how many people can teach their children the feeling of freedom?
8. Exercise is FUN.... when you have someone to do it with: I am by no means "in shape."... never have been. But that didn't stop my mom from getting me to try... I did basketball, dance classes, tennis... whatever it took my mom was 100% behind me. I am not athletic and didn't always play, but she was there... every game cheering me on and that made it worth it. Now, she still cheers me on... many mornings we call each other up, lace up our tennis shoes and go walking around the block while we talk on the phone. It's a great chance to talk about whatever while getting in a little exercise. We know it's not going to get us to drop 40 pounds or anything... but it gets us up and out of the house... and it's great.
9. How to budget: This has saved me on several occasions. I'm not going to say that I am amazing with money, because if I was I would be a millionaire! But, I'm not broke, I don't have credit card debt, I still own my house (knock on wood for the past few things there). Yes... I am tight with money, but who wouldn't be on unemployment... but I can budget. My mom used to have to budget for a family of 6! Thanks to her I know how to go shopping and I am able to pay the bills and still do some stuff I like. Heck without my parents teaching me about putting money in savings and what not I wouldn't have had the credit score to be able to buy a home at 23... without a co-signer. That's right... my parents are great with money.
10. Last but surely not least: How to be a mom: Ok, so I'm only a mom of 2 cats and a bunny, and unlike children I can leave them for 2 days and just put out food and clean litter and they are good. But I like to think I am a good cat mom... and when/if the time comes I'll be a good mom. I do NOT have as much patience as my mom... sometimes looking back at fights with my brother I feel I should nominate her for sainthood... but I feel my mom did such a great job that I will be able to do so as well.
I know it sounds simple... all little things... but it's those little things that will stick with you for life and it's those little things that all add up to make one amazing woman.... a mom. I love you mom!!!
1. If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all: Yes, I know a lot of your moms said this, but my mom really meant it. Maybe that's why I can bite my toungue when talking about my last job. There were A LOT of nice things with my job... but... not everything was great and those things... I just shouldn't talk about.
2. Be nice to everyone, because you never know who you are talking to: When I was younger I always thought that my mom was crazy talking to every woman she met in line waiting for the bathroom... the joke was she went into the bathroom and made a new best friend. But as I'm learning more and more about the need for networking I find myself at least being open to returning conversation with strangers... after all I could start talking to someone who could change my life forever.
3. How to be in love: I am a VERY lucky 20-something as my parents are not only still married, but still in love. I have two amazing role models when it comes to knowing what love is supposed to be... some give and take, some compromise, always making sure it's all cleared up before bed, going the extra mile just because... all those little things. I guess I used to take it for granted that they loved each other still, but then a few years ago I was at a friend's wedding that my parents were also at... another bridesmaid sitting next to me leaned over and said "look at your parents (dancing to a slow song, looking at each other just so)... I hope I find someone I love that much and still love them that much after all those years." That's when it hit me that their love was something special... and that's the love I hope I still have when I'm 50+ too!
4. The way to a man's heart is through his stomach: This may not work for every guy... but I know it helps me. My mom taught me how to cook great food, and how putting love in that food translates. I have always liked cooking.... but having someone I love to cook for makes me love cooking. I especially love making things I know he loves (and of course I don't cook anything I don't love too)... and waiting for that moment when he looks and me and says "it's delicious thank you sweetie."... It's not much but now I understand why my mom always worked so hard to cook dinner for us.
5. Treat others how you want to be treated: I may not follow this to a T... ok I've changed it quite a bit. I do treat others how I want to be treated... but this also helped give me the strength to cut people out of my life who don't treat me well. I've transitioned this to... "if you don't want to be around me don't... and if I don't want to be around you.... good bye." It may sound mean, but I used to be so focused on wanting EVERYONE to like me that I would stress myself out and depress myself. Once I realized that I just need SOME people to like me my life changed.
6. How to take care of someone when they are sick: I hate being sick... it's horrible... but my mom, a licensed RN, is an amazing nurse. She would make your favorite "sick" food which for me is lime jello with pears, gingerale, and cinnamon toast. My mom would make me take a nap, make me take it easy... when I was 10 this was annoying... but a few weeks ago I was sick... and what did I do... I took it easy and took naps... who knew she was so smart! Then when Shaun got sick I was able to take care of him... making him things he loves and making sure he took it easy.
7. How to drive: Yes, my mom taught me how to drive... she has WAY more patience then my dad and is better at staying calm when telling me I'm getting too close to the other car. And yes, my mom still helps me drive sometimes when we are in rush hour traffic and she thinks I'm going to crash... but I know it's just because she cares. But it's more than just learning how to drive... by teaching me this she taught me how to leave. I'm sure reading this she is wishing she never taught me now and I would stay in Ohio forever... but the freedom that comes with driving is the same feeling you get when you move out of the house and for me soon out of the state. I think my mom should be proud... how many people can teach their children the feeling of freedom?
8. Exercise is FUN.... when you have someone to do it with: I am by no means "in shape."... never have been. But that didn't stop my mom from getting me to try... I did basketball, dance classes, tennis... whatever it took my mom was 100% behind me. I am not athletic and didn't always play, but she was there... every game cheering me on and that made it worth it. Now, she still cheers me on... many mornings we call each other up, lace up our tennis shoes and go walking around the block while we talk on the phone. It's a great chance to talk about whatever while getting in a little exercise. We know it's not going to get us to drop 40 pounds or anything... but it gets us up and out of the house... and it's great.
9. How to budget: This has saved me on several occasions. I'm not going to say that I am amazing with money, because if I was I would be a millionaire! But, I'm not broke, I don't have credit card debt, I still own my house (knock on wood for the past few things there). Yes... I am tight with money, but who wouldn't be on unemployment... but I can budget. My mom used to have to budget for a family of 6! Thanks to her I know how to go shopping and I am able to pay the bills and still do some stuff I like. Heck without my parents teaching me about putting money in savings and what not I wouldn't have had the credit score to be able to buy a home at 23... without a co-signer. That's right... my parents are great with money.
10. Last but surely not least: How to be a mom: Ok, so I'm only a mom of 2 cats and a bunny, and unlike children I can leave them for 2 days and just put out food and clean litter and they are good. But I like to think I am a good cat mom... and when/if the time comes I'll be a good mom. I do NOT have as much patience as my mom... sometimes looking back at fights with my brother I feel I should nominate her for sainthood... but I feel my mom did such a great job that I will be able to do so as well.
I know it sounds simple... all little things... but it's those little things that will stick with you for life and it's those little things that all add up to make one amazing woman.... a mom. I love you mom!!!
Saturday, May 8, 2010
My Wishlist
Last night was an amazing concert. Pearl Jam took the stage in Noblesville, IN, and I was thinking about everything that has become of my life. In the past few years, especially the last few months, there are times when I feel my life is spinning out of control. I know it could be worse, it could always be worse... but sometimes I just wish I could take a moment to... enjoy the moment. I've been focusing a lot on that lately and last night was a great moment to enjoy.
One of my favorite Pearl Jam songs is "Wishlist," and when it was playing I was thinking about how wishlists change as you get older. When you are a kid you don't worry about anything except getting the cool new toy. As you get older you start wishing that you will get a good grade in school, pass that test, make the sports team, become prom queen.... stuff like that. In college you wish for a great job, lots of money, a doctor for a husband, etc After college you enter the real world... and your wish list is completely changed. Now you wish you have a job that you enjoy, even if it doesn't mean you are a millionaire at 30, you wish you have a place to call home, even if it means that you give up that mansion with a butler... and you wish you have a man who loves you for you.
During the song (lyrics below), I thought to myself... I am happy. I may not have a job... but I have the hope that I will soon be doing something I love and will feel appreciated. I have a home... yes I'm trying to sell it... but it's home with Shaun and my cats and bunny. And I am lucky to have a man who loves me for me... and that makes my wishlist... almost complete.
"Wishlist" by Pearl Jam:
I wish I was a neutron bomb, for once I could go off
I wish I was a sacrifice but somehow still lived on
I wish I was a sentimental ornament you hung on
The Christmas tree, I wish I was the star that went on top
I wish I was the evidence, I wish I was the grounds
For 50 million hands upraised and open toward the sky
I wish I was a sailor with someone who waited for me
I wish I was as fortunate, as fortunate as me
I wish I was a messenger and all the news was good
I wish I was the full moon shining off a Camaro's hood
I wish I was an alien at home behind the sun
I wish I was the souvenir you kept your house key on
I wish I was the pedal brake that you depended on
I wish I was the verb 'to trust' and never let you down
I wish I was a radio song, the one that you turned up
I wish...
I wish...
One of my favorite Pearl Jam songs is "Wishlist," and when it was playing I was thinking about how wishlists change as you get older. When you are a kid you don't worry about anything except getting the cool new toy. As you get older you start wishing that you will get a good grade in school, pass that test, make the sports team, become prom queen.... stuff like that. In college you wish for a great job, lots of money, a doctor for a husband, etc After college you enter the real world... and your wish list is completely changed. Now you wish you have a job that you enjoy, even if it doesn't mean you are a millionaire at 30, you wish you have a place to call home, even if it means that you give up that mansion with a butler... and you wish you have a man who loves you for you.
During the song (lyrics below), I thought to myself... I am happy. I may not have a job... but I have the hope that I will soon be doing something I love and will feel appreciated. I have a home... yes I'm trying to sell it... but it's home with Shaun and my cats and bunny. And I am lucky to have a man who loves me for me... and that makes my wishlist... almost complete.
"Wishlist" by Pearl Jam:
I wish I was a neutron bomb, for once I could go off
I wish I was a sacrifice but somehow still lived on
I wish I was a sentimental ornament you hung on
The Christmas tree, I wish I was the star that went on top
I wish I was the evidence, I wish I was the grounds
For 50 million hands upraised and open toward the sky
I wish I was a sailor with someone who waited for me
I wish I was as fortunate, as fortunate as me
I wish I was a messenger and all the news was good
I wish I was the full moon shining off a Camaro's hood
I wish I was an alien at home behind the sun
I wish I was the souvenir you kept your house key on
I wish I was the pedal brake that you depended on
I wish I was the verb 'to trust' and never let you down
I wish I was a radio song, the one that you turned up
I wish...
I wish...
Friday, May 7, 2010
Music for the Soul
Tonight was Pearl Jam concert #1 of 3 this weekend.... and #6 overall for me. That's nothing compared to Shaun who was seeing them for the 44th time, but I'm making progress. See, I wasn't a Pearl Jam fan a few years ago... not that I didn't like them... just didn't follow them. My memories of Pearl Jam go back to the early 90's. My brother was a fan and you could hear "Alive," "Jeremy" and "Even Flow" coming up the stairs from the basement where he played video games and forcing me to not go down there. That was all Pearl Jam meant to me until Shaun came into my life.
While I don't have a connection to them like he does, I have a connection to Shaun... and the things he loves. My first concert was 2 years ago, and since then I've gone whenever they are close enough to drive. This summer we are hitting 3 shows as kind of a "last hurrah" before moving to Seattle. Tonight one song hit me particularly hard and I thought I would share the lyrics:
Yes I understand that every life must end, aw huh,..
As we sit alone, I know someday we must go, aw huh,..
I’m a lucky man to count on both hands
The ones I love,..
Some folks just have one,
Others they got none, aw huh,..
Stay with me,..
Let’s just breathe.
Practiced are my sins,
Never gonna let me win, aw huh,..
Under everything, just another human being, aw huh,..
Yeh, I don’t wanna hurt, there’s so much in this world
To make me bleed.
Stay with me,..
You’re all I see.
Did I say that I need you?
Did I say that I want you?
Oh, if I didn’t now I’m a fool you see,..
No one knows this more than me.
As I come clean.
I wonder everyday
as I look upon your face, aw huh,..
Everything you gave
And nothing you would take, aw huh,..
Nothing you would take,..
Everything you gave.
Did I say that I need you?
Oh, Did I say that I want you?
Oh, if I didn’t now I’m a fool you see,..
No one know this more than me.
As I come clean.
Nothing you would take,..
everything you gave.
Hold me till I die,..
Meet you on the other side.
The song is called "Just Breathe" and it's off their newest album, Backspacer. I guess it's hit me lately because I feel the need sometimes to just sit back and breathe, and it's so much easier when you have someone you love with you. I guess it's just a great song to remember to tell those people you love that you do in fact love them... and to my friends and family... I do... in fact... love you all.
While I don't have a connection to them like he does, I have a connection to Shaun... and the things he loves. My first concert was 2 years ago, and since then I've gone whenever they are close enough to drive. This summer we are hitting 3 shows as kind of a "last hurrah" before moving to Seattle. Tonight one song hit me particularly hard and I thought I would share the lyrics:
Yes I understand that every life must end, aw huh,..
As we sit alone, I know someday we must go, aw huh,..
I’m a lucky man to count on both hands
The ones I love,..
Some folks just have one,
Others they got none, aw huh,..
Stay with me,..
Let’s just breathe.
Practiced are my sins,
Never gonna let me win, aw huh,..
Under everything, just another human being, aw huh,..
Yeh, I don’t wanna hurt, there’s so much in this world
To make me bleed.
Stay with me,..
You’re all I see.
Did I say that I need you?
Did I say that I want you?
Oh, if I didn’t now I’m a fool you see,..
No one knows this more than me.
As I come clean.
I wonder everyday
as I look upon your face, aw huh,..
Everything you gave
And nothing you would take, aw huh,..
Nothing you would take,..
Everything you gave.
Did I say that I need you?
Oh, Did I say that I want you?
Oh, if I didn’t now I’m a fool you see,..
No one know this more than me.
As I come clean.
Nothing you would take,..
everything you gave.
Hold me till I die,..
Meet you on the other side.
The song is called "Just Breathe" and it's off their newest album, Backspacer. I guess it's hit me lately because I feel the need sometimes to just sit back and breathe, and it's so much easier when you have someone you love with you. I guess it's just a great song to remember to tell those people you love that you do in fact love them... and to my friends and family... I do... in fact... love you all.
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
The Need for Something Furry
As I've mentioned before it's the little things in life that get you through the days, and something I'm a firm believer in is that everyone should have pets. Shaun and I have 3: 2 cats, Jack & Kittie, and 1 adorable bunny, Shamus. Research says people who have pets live longer, are less stressed, and are healthier, and the more time I spend with them the more obvious it is why.
See, unlike humans pets are just happy to have you. They don't care what you are wearing, what you look like, if you had a bad day, if you are sick... it doesn't matter, as long as you feed them, play with them and occasionally give them treats you are their hero. And seriously how many times in your life do you get to be a hero?!!
A few weeks ago I was sick, a horrible head cold that had me sleeping about 18 hours a day... most of my time was spent going between the bed and the couch trying to get comfy. My cats took turns laying on top of me.... it may sound annoying to some, but to me I found it comforting. Cuddled and purring they appreciated the chance to get to hang with me, and for me it was just nice to be appreciated for just existing. It was reminiscent of being a kid again when my mom held me, brushing my hair behind my ear, making me lime jello with pears (my absolute favorite). It's not exactly the same... I mean the cats didn't make me any food... but just having someone, something next to you is an amazing feeling.
They are also great for laughs, we enjoy when they run around the house chasing bugs (real and imaginary) and even more when the fight...pictured here:
It looks like they don't like each other, and it's hard to explain unless you see it... but when they "fight" it's hysterical. The faces they make, the way they hesitate then BAM go at it... it can make me laugh so hard my sides hurt. And while I'm not suggesting everyone goes out and gets two cats who only like each other some times.... I do think that having pets adds something to your life.
See, unlike humans pets are just happy to have you. They don't care what you are wearing, what you look like, if you had a bad day, if you are sick... it doesn't matter, as long as you feed them, play with them and occasionally give them treats you are their hero. And seriously how many times in your life do you get to be a hero?!!
A few weeks ago I was sick, a horrible head cold that had me sleeping about 18 hours a day... most of my time was spent going between the bed and the couch trying to get comfy. My cats took turns laying on top of me.... it may sound annoying to some, but to me I found it comforting. Cuddled and purring they appreciated the chance to get to hang with me, and for me it was just nice to be appreciated for just existing. It was reminiscent of being a kid again when my mom held me, brushing my hair behind my ear, making me lime jello with pears (my absolute favorite). It's not exactly the same... I mean the cats didn't make me any food... but just having someone, something next to you is an amazing feeling.
They are also great for laughs, we enjoy when they run around the house chasing bugs (real and imaginary) and even more when the fight...pictured here:
It looks like they don't like each other, and it's hard to explain unless you see it... but when they "fight" it's hysterical. The faces they make, the way they hesitate then BAM go at it... it can make me laugh so hard my sides hurt. And while I'm not suggesting everyone goes out and gets two cats who only like each other some times.... I do think that having pets adds something to your life.
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
Applying... for a second time.
This week I had to reapply for unemployment... not something I thought I was going to have to do back in October. I mean I'm a college grad with 5 years experience and great references.... but alas, 6 months later here I am, calling on my designated unemployment day and once again feeling horrible.
See, when you call you have to relive that moment... that moment you sat there and heard it was going to be your last day... and that moment... well it down right sucks. On the phone the unemployment specialist asks you a whole series of questions... all of which make me realize maybe my old job didn't respect me.
Did you get severance? NO. Will they be rehiring you in the next few months? NO. Do you have any prospects? Not really. And lastly... "let's check and see if there are any openings in the system.... no."
It's a hard thing to realize... that you are not as needed as you thought you were. I knew towards the end of my 5 year stint that I wasn't appreciated. Emails were ignored, meetings rescheduled over and over again, the last few weeks they didn't even try to hide my future plans. And while I could be bitter, and was for a little bit, I really do feel like in the end I will be happier. I am over all much happier with my life now, I sleep more, and better... I see friends and family... I have better relationships with them... I eat healthier and see the sun... my life is great. And I don't dwell on the bad memories, I try to focus on the good ones and look to the future, but when you have to reapply... it all comes rushing back.
I have never been fired before... and hope to never be again... it's not a fun experience... but once you get over that initial shock you can really focus on your future and finding a job that WILL appreciate you for what you have to offer. Oh, and a word of advice... don't wait until your benefits completely run out before you reapply... you will be stuck with a few weeks of no cash.
See, when you call you have to relive that moment... that moment you sat there and heard it was going to be your last day... and that moment... well it down right sucks. On the phone the unemployment specialist asks you a whole series of questions... all of which make me realize maybe my old job didn't respect me.
Did you get severance? NO. Will they be rehiring you in the next few months? NO. Do you have any prospects? Not really. And lastly... "let's check and see if there are any openings in the system.... no."
It's a hard thing to realize... that you are not as needed as you thought you were. I knew towards the end of my 5 year stint that I wasn't appreciated. Emails were ignored, meetings rescheduled over and over again, the last few weeks they didn't even try to hide my future plans. And while I could be bitter, and was for a little bit, I really do feel like in the end I will be happier. I am over all much happier with my life now, I sleep more, and better... I see friends and family... I have better relationships with them... I eat healthier and see the sun... my life is great. And I don't dwell on the bad memories, I try to focus on the good ones and look to the future, but when you have to reapply... it all comes rushing back.
I have never been fired before... and hope to never be again... it's not a fun experience... but once you get over that initial shock you can really focus on your future and finding a job that WILL appreciate you for what you have to offer. Oh, and a word of advice... don't wait until your benefits completely run out before you reapply... you will be stuck with a few weeks of no cash.
Monday, May 3, 2010
The Relationship Ladder
All my life I have had people come and go in my life, as do most people. And as I have gotten older I have started subconsciously rating people... from least important to most important. The thing is when your life goes into crisis mode you really start to see where people land on the ladder of importance.
Family is always near the top, at least for me they are. My mom is one of my closet friends, she knows almost everything about me and is the most supportive mother anyone could hope for. My dad and I... well we have a typical father/daughter relationship where we don't always see eye to eye. But that aside I know that my dad would jump through fire to save me, no questions... ok few questions asked. My sister and I are 10 years apart, and while we may have started our relationship with me coloring pictures for her to hang in her dorm room, we have become great friends, the type of relationship where you can ask for favors and not need to worry about when they are going to ask for it back. I am pretty close to my brothers. My oldest brother plays the role well, being the guy I go to for advice when I'm too nervous to go to my dad... he would also do anything for me... and vice versa. My other brother and I have learned to appreciate each other, which is coming a long way for the constant bickering and fighting when we lived under one roof. It's hard to get really close, since we live 6 hours away... but I think it would be cool to hang out with him now. So, while my family is at the top of the ladder, I am closer to some then others.
Friends can cover a WIDE range of rungs on the ladder. I have friends that I have known since I was in diapers, ones from high school, college, and career. The thing with "crisis" mode is that you can REALLY tell where friends fall. Friends from young childhood for me hold a special place. Months can go by without us talking, but when we finally connect over the phone or during a visit it's as time was stopped and we can really be ourselves. I can't say the same for some high school friends.
While I have no problem reconnecting over facebook I am reluctant to go to my 10 year reunion. See, I was never really myself in high school... I was quiet and reserved and just waiting to get out of there. My senior year I was the most "me" and those who met me then I get along with better than those who I knew before. Many people from my small town are the type to get married and have kids in the 20's. I'm not saying anything is wrong with this, if that's what you want then go with it... but it isn't what I want and I make no apologies for it. I based my friendships from high school on where they are now. Some I considered close when I was 15 I simply exchange Christmas cards with now. Most of the reason is my move to the big city... if you didn't get why I wanted to leave you don't get me... end of story.
College friends I am still close with. I was finally being myself and finally decided one thing that changed my life: "If you don't like me... then you don't have to be around me... and I'm ok with that." I may have only made about a dozen friends in college... which is odd since I graduated with I don't know... 150,000. But the ones I made are the real deal. It may have been lonley in some of my classes, but I read a lot of books and was quite happy. I had people to hang out with on my 21st birthday, people to go to OSU Football games with, people to just spend time with. Most of those friends I still see pretty regular, and all of them like me for me.
Work colleges... ok no one wants to talk about work. Needless to say at the end of the day I will probably only keep in touch with 2 or 3 people total, they were great at work... but you can only get so close in a work environment... these people are at the bottom of the ladder.
After college I took some time to get to really know me... the best assignment I ever had was to go on a date (dinner and a movie) alone... just me... no one to talk to... no one to distract you... just you. It sounds weird but for me it was empowering. I had spent so much of my life with people, with friends, with everyone that I really didn't know who *I* was. Once I figured it out I was able to really let people in my life. The people who still liked me stayed, and I even added some new people. My boyfriend, Shaun, and a lot of his friends... all of which are amazing people who want to spend time with me... for me.
Family is always near the top, at least for me they are. My mom is one of my closet friends, she knows almost everything about me and is the most supportive mother anyone could hope for. My dad and I... well we have a typical father/daughter relationship where we don't always see eye to eye. But that aside I know that my dad would jump through fire to save me, no questions... ok few questions asked. My sister and I are 10 years apart, and while we may have started our relationship with me coloring pictures for her to hang in her dorm room, we have become great friends, the type of relationship where you can ask for favors and not need to worry about when they are going to ask for it back. I am pretty close to my brothers. My oldest brother plays the role well, being the guy I go to for advice when I'm too nervous to go to my dad... he would also do anything for me... and vice versa. My other brother and I have learned to appreciate each other, which is coming a long way for the constant bickering and fighting when we lived under one roof. It's hard to get really close, since we live 6 hours away... but I think it would be cool to hang out with him now. So, while my family is at the top of the ladder, I am closer to some then others.
Friends can cover a WIDE range of rungs on the ladder. I have friends that I have known since I was in diapers, ones from high school, college, and career. The thing with "crisis" mode is that you can REALLY tell where friends fall. Friends from young childhood for me hold a special place. Months can go by without us talking, but when we finally connect over the phone or during a visit it's as time was stopped and we can really be ourselves. I can't say the same for some high school friends.
While I have no problem reconnecting over facebook I am reluctant to go to my 10 year reunion. See, I was never really myself in high school... I was quiet and reserved and just waiting to get out of there. My senior year I was the most "me" and those who met me then I get along with better than those who I knew before. Many people from my small town are the type to get married and have kids in the 20's. I'm not saying anything is wrong with this, if that's what you want then go with it... but it isn't what I want and I make no apologies for it. I based my friendships from high school on where they are now. Some I considered close when I was 15 I simply exchange Christmas cards with now. Most of the reason is my move to the big city... if you didn't get why I wanted to leave you don't get me... end of story.
College friends I am still close with. I was finally being myself and finally decided one thing that changed my life: "If you don't like me... then you don't have to be around me... and I'm ok with that." I may have only made about a dozen friends in college... which is odd since I graduated with I don't know... 150,000. But the ones I made are the real deal. It may have been lonley in some of my classes, but I read a lot of books and was quite happy. I had people to hang out with on my 21st birthday, people to go to OSU Football games with, people to just spend time with. Most of those friends I still see pretty regular, and all of them like me for me.
Work colleges... ok no one wants to talk about work. Needless to say at the end of the day I will probably only keep in touch with 2 or 3 people total, they were great at work... but you can only get so close in a work environment... these people are at the bottom of the ladder.
After college I took some time to get to really know me... the best assignment I ever had was to go on a date (dinner and a movie) alone... just me... no one to talk to... no one to distract you... just you. It sounds weird but for me it was empowering. I had spent so much of my life with people, with friends, with everyone that I really didn't know who *I* was. Once I figured it out I was able to really let people in my life. The people who still liked me stayed, and I even added some new people. My boyfriend, Shaun, and a lot of his friends... all of which are amazing people who want to spend time with me... for me.
Sunday, May 2, 2010
Getting Outside
Being unemployed it's easy to get depressed, and even more easy to spend all your time sitting inside your home feeling sorry for yourself. That's when you have to start forcing yourself to get outside. The problem comes when you can't afford to go out and that's when you have to get creative... so here are some of my free or cheap outings.
1. Visit A Park: Now-a-days more and more cities are putting money into making more green spaces, and some of them are quite beautiful. From bike paths, walking paths, flower gardens, basketball courts, tennis courts, heck even swings... get out side, enjoy a nice day and get some exercise. You can also pack a lunch and just get out for a different scenery.
2. Walk the Mall: Yes, the mall can be depressing when you don't have money to spend, but even if you go and maybe walk around, window shop... if you have to treat yourself to a smoothie or cookie in the food court. I have had fun dreaming, visiting a department store and thinking about what I'm going to register for if I ever get engaged or move to a new place and get a great job that gives me all the money I can spend. But like I said, it can be depressing when you leave with nothing.
3. Hit Up Used Stores: This may require you buying something, but used book stores have some great finds, and flea markets are always fun. Plus the great thing about those stores is that it's not unusual to leave with nothing, and sometimes you can find something amazing for really cheap!
4. Take in Some Art: In most cities there are A LOT of art exhibits and not all of them are in the museum. Many hang in free exhibits at Universities, Colleges, or even smaller art galleries. Check out your local visitors bureau website for information or even call your local college to see if they have anything.
5. Festivals are FUN!: For those who know me it's no surprise I love festivals! They are always fun, and you can usually get some free stuff. Best of all many festivals are free to the public. It's a great way to get out of the house and find out about other free stuff going on around town. For example - music festivals always have information on where you can see more local bands for free.
Just remember to keep your sanity you have to get out of the house.... so do it!
1. Visit A Park: Now-a-days more and more cities are putting money into making more green spaces, and some of them are quite beautiful. From bike paths, walking paths, flower gardens, basketball courts, tennis courts, heck even swings... get out side, enjoy a nice day and get some exercise. You can also pack a lunch and just get out for a different scenery.
2. Walk the Mall: Yes, the mall can be depressing when you don't have money to spend, but even if you go and maybe walk around, window shop... if you have to treat yourself to a smoothie or cookie in the food court. I have had fun dreaming, visiting a department store and thinking about what I'm going to register for if I ever get engaged or move to a new place and get a great job that gives me all the money I can spend. But like I said, it can be depressing when you leave with nothing.
3. Hit Up Used Stores: This may require you buying something, but used book stores have some great finds, and flea markets are always fun. Plus the great thing about those stores is that it's not unusual to leave with nothing, and sometimes you can find something amazing for really cheap!
4. Take in Some Art: In most cities there are A LOT of art exhibits and not all of them are in the museum. Many hang in free exhibits at Universities, Colleges, or even smaller art galleries. Check out your local visitors bureau website for information or even call your local college to see if they have anything.
5. Festivals are FUN!: For those who know me it's no surprise I love festivals! They are always fun, and you can usually get some free stuff. Best of all many festivals are free to the public. It's a great way to get out of the house and find out about other free stuff going on around town. For example - music festivals always have information on where you can see more local bands for free.
Just remember to keep your sanity you have to get out of the house.... so do it!
Saturday, May 1, 2010
Little Silver Linings
So you've lost your job... it stinks. Things just aren't going your way... that's rough. Believe me, I've been there. And while I can't be super positive saying "look at me my life turned around for the best!".... YET, I can give some advice on how to deal with limbo.
When recently giving advice to someone I told them to concentrate on the little things. It's hard not being overwhelmed by the piling bills, the for sale sign in the front yard for what seems like an eternity, and feeling like you will never be working again. I get so overwhelmed that the littlest things make me cry and want to curl up in bed and sleep for 2 weeks straight. So I try to focus on things I can control and about 95% of the time that works.
Here's an example of a typical day: I wake up, make Shaun breakfast, check email and fool around on the internet. I know right now it seems like I haven't accomplished a thing. But then I set small tasks for myself, laundry, dishes, etc. It seems dumb, but getting it done is something. The best part of my day... making dinner. It's funny because I never thought of myself as the "June Cleaver" type... but when it comes to cooking count me in. When I'm really stressed I bake, the need to measure perfectly and time things out to a tee is comforting to me. But lately I've been really into making dinner.
When I was working so much I never had time to make a proper dinner, relied on the crockpot or quick meals to eat before work... but now I have time to make chicken pot pie and homemade soups. Making a great meal is a small accomplishment that helps me get through the day. I challenge anyone who is down on life to find the one small accomplishment that makes them happy... and to do it better then you ever have before!
When recently giving advice to someone I told them to concentrate on the little things. It's hard not being overwhelmed by the piling bills, the for sale sign in the front yard for what seems like an eternity, and feeling like you will never be working again. I get so overwhelmed that the littlest things make me cry and want to curl up in bed and sleep for 2 weeks straight. So I try to focus on things I can control and about 95% of the time that works.
Here's an example of a typical day: I wake up, make Shaun breakfast, check email and fool around on the internet. I know right now it seems like I haven't accomplished a thing. But then I set small tasks for myself, laundry, dishes, etc. It seems dumb, but getting it done is something. The best part of my day... making dinner. It's funny because I never thought of myself as the "June Cleaver" type... but when it comes to cooking count me in. When I'm really stressed I bake, the need to measure perfectly and time things out to a tee is comforting to me. But lately I've been really into making dinner.
When I was working so much I never had time to make a proper dinner, relied on the crockpot or quick meals to eat before work... but now I have time to make chicken pot pie and homemade soups. Making a great meal is a small accomplishment that helps me get through the day. I challenge anyone who is down on life to find the one small accomplishment that makes them happy... and to do it better then you ever have before!
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